Nine dating deal-breakers

You’ve finally met someone who seems to be the partner of your dreams. You are very attracted to each other, you like many of the same things and you can spend hours talking. Everything is going great, until you run up against one or more of these deal-breakers.

While many relationship issues can be healed within the relationship, there are some that are definite red flags. Below are the major dating deal-breakers that I’ve found in my 45 years of counseling individuals and couples.

1. Smoking, Drinking, Drugs

Sometimes you can tell right away whether someone smokes or drinks a lot or does drugs, but sometimes, this information takes time to emerge. Or, you might know about it but think it will be okay, only to discover that it is getting in the way of the relationship.

If you are a non-smoker, it’s important to be honest with yourself about whether it’s OK with you if your partner smokes. If not, you may need to walk away, since you can never be certain whether he or she will stop. It’s the same with alcohol and drugs. If these behaviors are not OK with you, it is unlikely that the relationship will work. Remember, you get what you see — not what the person tells you will happen in the future. Don’t base a relationship on what MIGHT be.

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